Let’s talk about friendship—the kind that’s seen you through bad breakups, questionable haircuts, and every season of Grey’s Anatomy. Now, let’s talk about the one thing that could tear that friendship apart faster than a scandalous text message: asking your best friend to join you and your husband in the bedroom. Whether you’re part of the swinging community or just curious, this is one line you don’t want to cross. Here’s why involving your bestie in your extracurricular activities could be the recipe for disaster—and why it’s better to keep your pineapple in the fruit bowl where it belongs.

1. The Friendship Killer: When You Cross That Line

Your best friend is your ride-or-die, the one person who knows all your secrets, including which of your exes wasn’t worth the time. But when you ask her to join you and your husband for a threesome—especially if she finds him less than appealing—you’re introducing a level of awkwardness that even the strongest friendship might not survive.

Take it from me, or better yet, take it from the countless friendships that have ended over this very scenario. My friend Lily, for example, had a close-knit group of friends from high school. They’d been inseparable for years, but when one of them suggested a “fun” night with her husband, the group dynamics were never the same. “It was so awkward,” Lily admitted. “I could never look at her husband the same way again, and our friendship just fizzled out after that.”

The truth is, once that line is crossed, there’s no going back. Your friend might say she’s okay with it, but deep down, things will never be the same. The trust and comfort you once shared could be shattered, and that’s a high price to pay for a moment of curiosity.

2. She’s Devoted to You—And Only You

Your best friend is your confidante, your partner-in-crime, and your therapist all rolled into one. She’s been there for you through thick and thin, not for your husband’s sake, but because she’s devoted to you. Involving her in your marriage in such an intimate way changes the dynamics of that devotion. Suddenly, she’s not just your best friend; she’s someone who’s shared an experience with both of you, and that can create a whole new set of complications.

Even in the swinging community, where the “pineapple” is often a symbol of open-mindedness and hospitality (yes, the upside-down pineapple is a signal for swingers), boundaries are crucial. While swinging might work for you and your spouse, bringing your best friend into the mix can blur the lines in ways that are difficult to untangle.

Think about it: When you see her after “the event,” will you be able to separate the friend from the third partner? Will she? It’s an emotional minefield, and most friendships aren’t equipped with the bomb squad needed to navigate it.

3. The “Ew” Factor: She Finds Him Revolting

Let’s be honest—if your best friend finds your husband revolting, asking her to swing with him is a disaster waiting to happen. No amount of wine or encouragement will change her feelings, and forcing the issue is only going to lead to resentment.

Remember my friend Lily? Well, her story didn’t end with just awkwardness. “I honestly couldn’t even fathom the idea,” she said, cringing at the memory. “He wasn’t my type at all, and the whole situation just made me feel gross.” That revulsion spilled over into their friendship, and what was once a tight bond became strained and eventually broke altogether.

Why risk it? There are plenty of other potential partners out there who would jump at the chance to join you and your husband—why drag your best friend into it, especially when she’s clearly not interested? Respect her feelings and keep her out of your bedroom escapades.

4. The Pineapple Community: Why Friends Don’t Belong in the Bowl

The swinging community, often symbolized by the pineapple, thrives on clear boundaries, trust, and mutual respect. But there’s a big difference between inviting a willing participant into your private life and dragging your best friend into a situation she never wanted to be a part of.

In the pineapple community, communication is key. Successful swinging relationships are built on open discussions, clear expectations, and a mutual understanding of boundaries. Bringing a best friend into the mix—especially one who isn’t on board—violates those principles. It’s like putting a sour lemon into a sweet fruit salad—it just doesn’t belong.

And let’s not forget the repercussions of being a part of the “pineapple community” when things go wrong. Swinging isn’t for everyone, and even within the community, bringing a close friend into your bedroom can have serious consequences. It’s one thing to experiment with strangers or acquaintances, but when you involve someone who’s a fundamental part of your life, you’re playing with fire.

5. The Forever Friendship: Don’t Throw It Away

Your friendship is worth more than a night of experimentation. Think about the years you’ve spent building trust, sharing secrets, and supporting each other through life’s ups and downs. Is that worth risking for one night of “fun”?

Real-life friendships have ended over less. A story from Psychology Today highlights a woman who lost her best friend after they attempted a threesome with the woman’s husband. What was supposed to be an adventure turned into a nightmare, leaving both women hurt, betrayed, and estranged. Their friendship, which had lasted over a decade, was never the same .

Friendships like these are rare and precious. They’re the relationships that get you through life’s toughest moments. Why jeopardize that for something so fleeting?

The Bottom Line: Keep Your Best Friend Out of the Bedroom

At the end of the day, your best friend is someone who should remain separate from your marriage and your sex life. No matter how adventurous you and your husband may be, your friendship with her is a different kind of relationship—one that deserves its own boundaries and respect.

Swinging can be a healthy, consensual way for couples to explore their sexuality, but it’s not something that should ever involve your best friend. The risk to your friendship is simply too high. Keep your best friend in the best friend zone, and cherish the unique bond you share without complicating it with your bedroom activities.

In the world of pineapples, boundaries are key. Don’t let curiosity or a moment of excitement destroy what could be a lifelong friendship. Remember, some lines are never meant to be crossed, and involving your best friend in your intimate life is one of them.

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About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

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Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

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Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

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Let’s be real for a moment. This world is filled with incredible artists, creators, and writers who pour their hearts into their craft, only to be silenced by the very system designed to elevate them. I know this because I’m living it. My name is A.L. Childers, and I’ve spent over 20 years writing, creating, and putting my soul on paper. My books and blogs have touched the hearts of readers around the world, but here’s the kicker: I’m still struggling to keep the lights on.

It’s frustrating. It’s maddening. And yet, here I am, still writing. Why? Because I believe in the power of storytelling and the undeniable connection we share through the written word. But let me take you through my journey, and why, despite the odds, I refuse to give up.

The Beginning: Promises, Publishing, and a Harsh Reality

Like so many writers, I started out with dreams of getting my first book into the hands of readers everywhere. My debut book was published through Page Publishing, a reputable company that helped me get my work out there. But the truth is, the system is rigged. The promises of wealth and recognition didn’t pan out—not because Page Publishing didn’t do their part, but because the corporate machine behind it swallowed up every dime from the sales.

And that’s the reality for so many authors. We write because we love it, because we have something to say, and because we know that our words can touch lives. But in a world where money talks and algorithms decide what gets seen, it feels like screaming into the void. The system is designed to elevate those who can pay to play, and for those of us who can’t, well… we often get left behind.

Going Indie: The Move to Self-Publishing

After seeing the royalties from my first book trickle in (or rather, not trickle in), I made the decision to self-publish my future works through Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP). It seemed like the best option—complete creative control, direct access to my readers, and the ability to publish as often as I wanted. But here’s the catch: self-publishing is a beast of its own. Without marketing skills, a massive budget, or the algorithmic push from the corporate giants, my books—though loved by those who read them—were often buried beneath the noise.

I’m a writer, not a marketing guru. And let’s face it, in today’s world, you need money and marketing savvy to rise above the crowd. I have the books, the stories, and the passion, but when it comes to promoting myself, I feel like David going up against a corporate Goliath.

Why My Books Matter: The A.L. Childers Difference

But enough about the struggles—let’s talk about why my books matter, and why people love them so much. My writing isn’t just about telling stories. It’s about revealing truths, exploring the depths of human potential, and connecting with people on a soul-deep level. I’ve written books like “Pawsitively Nourished: Heartfelt Recipes for Your Dog’s Well-being”, a labor of love inspired by my own journey to heal my beloved dog through healthy, homemade meals. My cookbook isn’t just about food; it’s about healing, love, and the bond we share with our furry friends.

Then there’s “The Power of Bloodlines: Family Legacies That Have Shaped History, Policies, and Culture,” which digs into the hidden histories that shaped our world. This book tackles subjects many writers shy away from, revealing the truths behind powerful families and how their legacies still impact us today.

And let’s not forget my more spiritual works, like “No Return: A Five-Step Plan to Escape Reincarnation on Prison Planet Earth,” where I dive into the philosophical and metaphysical questions of existence, life, and what happens when we die. These aren’t your run-of-the-mill books. They challenge, they provoke, and they inspire.

But here’s the thing—without marketing, they’ll likely be appreciated the way many great works are: long after I’m gone.

My Blog: More Than Words, A Movement

My blog, The Hypothyroidism Chick, is where I lay it all bare. It’s not just about hypothyroidism; it’s about life, struggle, triumph, and the everyday battles that make us human. It’s a place for people to feel seen, heard, and understood. And while my books are my passion, my blog is my heartbeat.

People come to my blog because it’s real. It’s not polished or corporate—it’s raw, it’s funny, and it’s honest. I talk about the things no one else wants to touch: government control, the hidden forces that bind us, and even the energetic exchanges we experience through sex (yeah, I went there). My blog isn’t for the faint of heart—it’s for the thinkers, the dreamers, and those who know there’s more to life than what we’re being fed by the mainstream.

The Struggle is Real: Marketing, Algorithms, and Corporations

But here’s where I need help. Writing is what I was born to do, but reaching people? That’s a whole different game. The truth is, I don’t have the money to pay for big marketing campaigns or the corporate muscle to push my books to the top of Amazon’s lists. And the sad reality is, in today’s world, if you’re not paying, you’re not playing.

The algorithms are designed to promote those who can pay for advertising, and while my readers are some of the most loyal, amazing people out there, it’s hard to break through the noise without serious financial backing. I’ve put everything into my work—my heart, my soul, my time—but without the funds to promote it, my words will only reach a fraction of the people they could.

Why You Should Care: The Power of Support

If you’re reading this, then I’m asking you to help me break the cycle. I know that my books and my blog have the power to change lives—because they already have. But I can’t do it alone. I need help with marketing, with spreading the word, and with breaking through the corporate algorithms that keep indie authors like me on the sidelines.

If you’ve ever read one of my books or followed my blog, then you know what I bring to the table. My work is raw, real, and unflinchingly honest. It’s not just writing—it’s a call to action, a movement, and a connection to something bigger than ourselves. Whether you’re a woman or a man, whether you’re young or old, my words speak to the human experience in a way that few others can.

How You Can Help

If you’re moved by my story, I’m asking you to support me in any way you can. Share my blog, tell a friend about my books, leave a review on Amazon, or simply spread the word. Every little bit helps, and together, we can show the world that great writing doesn’t need corporate backing to succeed—it just needs people who care.

You can find my books on Amazon, including “Pawsitively Nourished”, “No Return: A Five-Step Plan to Escape Reincarnation on Prison Planet Earth,” and “The Power of Bloodlines”. They’re not just books—they’re journeys. They’re stories that will make you think, laugh, cry, and maybe even see the world a little differently.

So, if you believe in the power of storytelling, if you’ve ever felt silenced by the system, or if you just want to support a writer who’s fighting to keep her voice alive—join me. Let’s break the algorithm together.

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References:

• Pawsitively Nourished: Heartfelt Recipes for Your Dog’s Well-being, available on Amazon.
• The Power of Bloodlines: Family Legacies That Have Shaped History, Policies, and Culture, available on Amazon.
• No Return: A Five-Step Plan to Escape Reincarnation on Prison Planet Earth, available on Amazon.
• Visit The Hypothyroidism Chick for more on my blog, where I cover everything from life’s biggest questions to the day-to-day challenges of living with hypothyroidism.

Let’s build something powerful together.

In a world saturated with information and stories vying for attention, there emerges a voice so authentic, so resonant, that it cuts through the noise and speaks directly to the human spirit. That voice belongs to A.L. Childers, a writer whose words have the power to inspire, heal, and transform lives. Despite her incredible talent and a devoted readership, Childers faces the all-too-common struggle of getting her work the recognition it deserves in today’s algorithm-driven landscape.

The Rise of a Literary Powerhouse

With over a decade of writing experience, A.L. Childers has carved a niche for herself as a beacon of hope and empowerment. Her writing journey began as a personal quest for expression and understanding, but it quickly evolved into a mission to connect with others and share profound insights about life, health, and the human condition.

Childers’ unique voice and storytelling prowess have garnered her a loyal following. Readers across the globe are drawn to her raw honesty, sharp wit, and compassionate perspective, which shine through in every blog post and book she publishes. Whether she’s delving into the complexities of living with hypothyroidism or exploring the depths of human emotions, Childers writes with a clarity and warmth that makes her work both relatable and deeply impactful.

The Struggles Behind the Success

Despite her undeniable talent and the love her readers have for her work, Childers faces significant challenges in reaching a wider audience. In an era where corporate algorithms often dictate visibility, many gifted writers find themselves overshadowed by those with larger marketing budgets. Childers’ journey is no exception.

Her first book, published through Page Publishing, was a labor of love that showcased her exceptional storytelling abilities. While the publishing house did a commendable job bringing her work to life, the promised reach and recognition didn’t materialize as expected. The intricate web of publishing economics and market dynamics meant that despite positive feedback, the book didn’t achieve the sales it rightfully deserved.

Undeterred, Childers took matters into her own hands and ventured into the world of self-publishing through Amazon KDP. This move showcased her resilience and determination to share her stories with the world on her own terms. However, without substantial marketing resources or expertise, even the most brilliant works can struggle to find their audience. Childers’ experience underscores the harsh reality many independent authors face today: creating exceptional content is only half the battle; getting it noticed is an entirely different challenge.

The Hidden Gems: Childers’ Remarkable Works

For those fortunate enough to have discovered her, A.L. Childers’ books are nothing short of transformative. Her writing effortlessly weaves together personal anecdotes, insightful observations, and profound wisdom, offering readers a rich and engaging experience that lingers long after the last page is turned.

On her blog, TheHypothyroidismChick.com, Childers shares deeply personal and informative posts about living with hypothyroidism, mental health, and navigating life’s myriad challenges. Her ability to blend humor with heartfelt sincerity makes her blog a must-read for anyone seeking comfort, understanding, and a good laugh amidst their struggles.

Her books, available on Amazon, delve even deeper into these themes, providing readers with comprehensive explorations of health, self-discovery, and empowerment. Childers writes not just to tell stories but to spark conversations, challenge perspectives, and inspire positive change. Her works are treasure troves of knowledge and empathy, waiting to be discovered by those seeking meaningful and relatable literature.

Why the World Needs A.L. Childers

In a time where authenticity is often compromised for virality, A.L. Childers stands out as a true literary superhero. Her writing doesn’t just entertain; it educates, uplifts, and unites. She tackles complex and often stigmatized topics with grace and openness, providing a voice for those who feel unheard and a guide for those navigating similar journeys.

Childers’ work is particularly empowering for women, as she addresses issues that are frequently misunderstood or overlooked. However, her messages are universal, resonating with anyone who has faced adversity, sought personal growth, or yearned for genuine connection. In every paragraph, she offers strength, courage, and a reminder that none of us are alone in our struggles.

Her ability to connect deeply with readers stems from her unwavering commitment to truth and vulnerability. Childers doesn’t shy away from sharing her own experiences—the good, the bad, and the messy—in order to forge real, lasting bonds with her audience. This level of transparency and relatability is rare and incredibly needed in today’s fast-paced, often superficial media landscape.

The Call to Action: Supporting a Literary Luminary

Great art often goes unrecognized in its time, but it doesn’t have to be that way. A.L. Childers deserves to be celebrated and supported now, so that her words can continue to touch and transform lives across the globe.

Here’s how you can be a part of her journey:

1. Explore Her Blog: Visit TheHypothyroidismChick.com to dive into her latest posts. Share them with friends and family who might benefit from her insights and experiences.
2. Purchase and Review Her Books: Head over to Amazon and search for A.L. Childers’ works. Buying her books not only supports her financially but also helps increase her visibility on the platform. After reading, leave a thoughtful review—reviews are crucial for independent authors to gain credibility and attract new readers.
3. Spread the Word: If her writing resonates with you, tell others about it. Share her blog posts on social media, recommend her books in book clubs, or gift them to friends. Word-of-mouth remains one of the most powerful tools for indie authors.
4. Engage and Connect: Follow her on social media platforms, leave comments on her blog, and engage with her content. This not only boosts her morale but also helps her understand and connect with her audience better.
5. Offer Support and Resources: If you have expertise in marketing, graphic design, or social media management, consider reaching out and offering assistance. Sometimes, a little help from the community can make a world of difference.

The Legacy in the Making

A.L. Childers is more than just a writer; she is a force of nature, a voice for the voiceless, and a catalyst for change. Her stories have the power to heal wounds, bridge divides, and inspire countless individuals to embrace their true selves. By supporting her work today, we ensure that her legacy of empathy and empowerment continues to grow and impact future generations.

In a world that desperately needs more understanding, kindness, and authenticity, A.L. Childers shines as a guiding light. Let’s not wait until it’s too late to recognize and celebrate her brilliance. The time to support and uplift her is now.

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Discover more of A.L. Childers’ work:

• Blog: TheHypothyroidismChick.com
• Books: Available on Amazon. Simply search for “A.L. Childers” to find her latest publications.

Join the movement. Read, share, and let A.L. Childers’ words inspire you. Together, we can help her continue to make a difference, one word at a time.

We’ve all been there: you’re in a relationship, things are going great, and then, seemingly out of nowhere, your partner starts pulling away from sex. It’s confusing, it’s frustrating, and it leaves you questioning everything—especially yourself. I’ve been there too, and I’m here to talk about the uncomfortable, often unspoken reasons why men and women withdraw from intimacy. With humor, honesty, and real-life examples, let’s dive into what’s really going on when the spark starts to fizzle.

The Elephant in the Bedroom: Stress, Exhaustion, and Life’s Demands

Let’s start with the most obvious culprit: life. Between work, kids, bills, and that never-ending to-do list, it’s no wonder that sex can sometimes take a backseat. For both men and women, stress is a major libido killer. When your mind is racing with thoughts of deadlines, unpaid bills, or what’s for dinner, it’s hard to feel sexy.

Take my friend Rachel, for instance. After having her second child, she found herself constantly exhausted. “I was so tired that the idea of sex felt like another chore,” she admitted. “It wasn’t that I didn’t love my husband, but between the kids, work, and trying to keep the house from looking like a disaster zone, I had nothing left to give.”

Her husband, Josh, felt the distance too. “I started feeling rejected, like she wasn’t attracted to me anymore,” he confided. But the truth was, Rachel’s exhaustion had nothing to do with attraction and everything to do with sheer fatigue.

The science backs this up: A study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that stress and fatigue are among the top reasons both men and women report a decrease in sexual desire . It’s not that the love or attraction has disappeared; it’s that life sometimes just gets in the way.

The Mental Load: When Emotional Baggage Becomes a Barrier

Another reason men and women pull away from sex is the emotional baggage we all carry. Whether it’s past traumas, body image issues, or unresolved conflicts, these can all build a wall between you and your partner.

I’ll never forget when my friend Jessica confided in me about her struggles. “After my divorce, I started dating again, but every time I got close to someone, I’d freeze up,” she said. “I was terrified of getting hurt again, and that fear made me pull away, even when I really liked the person.”

For men, the pressure to always be “on” can lead to a similar retreat. My colleague, Tom, opened up about his experience: “I went through a period where I was so anxious about work and providing for my family that I couldn’t even think about sex. I felt like I wasn’t ‘man enough’ if I couldn’t perform, so I just started avoiding it altogether.”

Research from the Kinsey Institute shows that psychological factors, including anxiety, depression, and past trauma, are significant contributors to sexual avoidance in both men and women . The mind is a powerful player in our sex lives, often dictating whether we feel connected or distant.

The Routine Rut: When Sex Becomes Predictable

Let’s be honest—sometimes, sex just gets boring. When you’ve been with the same partner for years, it’s easy to fall into a routine that feels more like a scheduled appointment than a passionate encounter. This can lead to both partners pulling away, not because they don’t love each other, but because the excitement is missing.

Take it from me—I’ve been there. After years of marriage, my husband and I found ourselves in a bit of a rut. Our once spontaneous and adventurous sex life had become predictable. “We need to shake things up,” I told him one night. And while he agreed, neither of us knew exactly how to get out of the routine we’d fallen into.

This isn’t uncommon. According to a study by the American Psychological Association, long-term couples often experience a decrease in sexual frequency and satisfaction due to the predictability of their encounters . It’s not that the love is gone; it’s that the excitement needs a little rekindling.

The Physical Disconnect: Health Issues and Body Changes

As we age, our bodies change—and so do our sexual desires. For many, health issues or body changes can lead to a decrease in sexual interest. Whether it’s hormonal changes, chronic pain, or a medical condition, physical health can play a huge role in why someone might pull away from sex.

My aunt Mary shared her experience with me. “After I went through menopause, my libido took a nosedive,” she said. “I love my husband, but I just didn’t feel the desire anymore. I was embarrassed to talk about it, so I started making excuses to avoid sex.”

For men, issues like erectile dysfunction can be incredibly isolating. My friend Kevin opened up about his struggles: “When I started having trouble performing, I felt like less of a man. Instead of talking to my wife about it, I just started avoiding sex. It was easier than facing the embarrassment.”

Medical research supports these experiences: Health conditions and hormonal changes can significantly impact sexual desire and performance in both men and women, leading to avoidance behaviors . The key is open communication and, when necessary, seeking medical advice.

Real Talk: The Importance of Communication

The one common thread in all of these situations? A lack of communication. When someone pulls away from sex, it’s easy to take it personally and assume the worst—that they’re not attracted to you anymore or that they’re interested in someone else. But more often than not, the reasons are far more complex and have little to do with the relationship itself.

I’ve learned from my own marriage that the only way to bridge the gap is to talk about it. “We need to talk about why we’re not connecting,” I finally told my husband after weeks of feeling distant. It wasn’t an easy conversation, but it was a necessary one. We both had to acknowledge our stresses, our fears, and yes, even our boredom, to find our way back to each other.

Experts agree: Open, honest communication is essential for maintaining a healthy sexual relationship. By talking about your feelings, fears, and needs, you can work together to overcome the barriers that might be keeping you apart .

The Bottom Line: It’s Not About You—It’s About Us

When your partner pulls away from sex, it’s easy to internalize it as a personal rejection. But the truth is, the reasons are often far more complex and varied. Whether it’s stress, emotional baggage, routine, or health issues, these factors can all play a role in why someone might retreat from the bedroom.

The key to overcoming these challenges is understanding and communication. Instead of letting the distance grow, have the tough conversations, seek help if needed, and most importantly, approach the situation with empathy and love. Because at the end of the day, a relationship is about more than just sex—it’s about the connection, trust, and understanding you share.

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References:

1. Lykins, Amy D., and Erick Janssen. “The Effects of Acute Stress on Sexual Arousal in Men and Women.” The Journal of Sexual Medicine, vol. 9, no. 1, 2012, pp. 185-194.
2. Lehmiller, Justin J., et al. “Self-Esteem, Relationship Satisfaction, and Sexual Communication in Relationships.” The Journal of Sexual Medicine, vol. 11, no. 5, 2014, pp. 1110-1120.
3. Brotto, Lori A., et al. “Mindfulness-Based Sex Therapy Improves Genital-Subjective Arousal Concordance in Women with Sexual Desire/Arousal Difficulties.” Archives of Sexual Behavior, vol. 45, no. 8, 2016, pp. 1907-1921.
4. McCabe, Marita P., and Christopher G. Connaughton. “Psychological Factors Associated with Sexual Dysfunction in Women.” The Journal of Sexual Medicine, vol. 8, no. 3, 2011, pp. 782-793.
5. Basson, Rosemary. “Women’s Sexual Desire—Disordered or Misunderstood?” The Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, vol. 26, no. 4, 2000, pp. 355-362.

About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

Being Human doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a warrior!

A.L. Childers

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

The Keto Autoimmune Protocol Healing Book for Women: Strengthen Your Immunity, Fight Inflammation and Love Your Incredible Body

Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Disclaimer

The information and recipes contained in blog is based upon the research and the personal experiences of the author. It’s for entertainment purposes only. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, up to date and reliable information. No warranties of any kind are expressed or implied. Readers acknowledge that the author is not engaging in the rendering of legal, financial, medical or professional advice. By reading this blog, the reader agrees that under no circumstance the author is not responsible for any loss, direct or indirect, which are incurred by using this information contained within this blog. Including but not limited to errors, omissions or inaccuracies. This blog is not intended as replacements from what your health care provider has suggested.  The author is not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of any of the suggestions, preparations or procedures discussed in this blog. All matters pertaining to your health should be supervised by a health care professional. I am not a doctor, or a medical professional. This blog is designed for as an educational and entertainment tool only. Please always check with your health practitioner before taking any vitamins, supplements, or herbs, as they may have side-effects, especially when combined with medications, alcohol, or other vitamins or supplements.  Knowledge is power, educate yourself and find the answer to your health care needs. Wisdom is a wonderful thing to seek.  I hope this blog will teach and encourage you to take leaps in your life to educate yourself for a happier & healthier life. You have to take ownership of your health. The highlighted links are affiliate links in my blogs.

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Marriage is supposed to be a partnership built on love, trust, and mutual respect, but what happens when your husband drops a bombshell: he wants to have “just sex” with other women? This scenario is more common than you might think, and it’s an issue that leaves many wives reeling, questioning the foundation of their relationship. Let’s explore this complex and emotionally charged topic with a mix of humor, seriousness, and real-life examples.

The “Just Sex” Request: What Does It Mean?

When a husband asks for “just sex” with other women, it’s often framed as a purely physical need—separate from the emotional and spiritual connection he shares with his wife. But let’s be real: even the phrase “just sex” can trigger a whirlwind of emotions, from betrayal to confusion.

According to Dr. Tammy Nelson, a licensed sex and relationship therapist, men may request extramarital sex for a variety of reasons, including unmet sexual desires, a desire for novelty, or even a way to cope with midlife crises. But regardless of the reason, the impact on the marriage can be profound .

Real-Life Example: Sarah and Mark’s Story

Take the case of Sarah and Mark. They had been married for 12 years when Mark casually suggested they open up their marriage. His reasoning? He loved Sarah deeply but felt an urge to explore sexually with other women. For Sarah, this request felt like a slap in the face.

“I thought we had a good marriage,” Sarah explained. “So when Mark told me he wanted to have sex with other women, it felt like everything I believed about us was a lie. It wasn’t just the idea of him being with someone else—it was the fear that I wasn’t enough for him anymore.”

Mark, on the other hand, insisted that his desire had nothing to do with his love for Sarah. “It’s purely physical,” he told her. “I’m not looking for another relationship; I just want to experience something new.”

The Impact on Marriage: Trust and Communication

The fallout from a request like this can shake the very foundation of trust in a marriage. For many women, the notion that their husband wants to have sex with someone else—regardless of the “just sex” qualifier—feels like a betrayal.

Dr. Esther Perel, a renowned relationship therapist and author, notes that sexual exclusivity is often seen as a cornerstone of marriage, and when that is challenged, it can lead to deep emotional wounds. However, she also emphasizes the importance of open communication in navigating these difficult conversations. “Couples need to talk openly about their desires, boundaries, and fears. It’s not an easy conversation, but it’s necessary for the relationship to survive, whether they decide to stay monogamous or not” .

Real-Life Example: The Aftermath of Steve’s Request

Consider the story of Jane and Steve, married for seven years. When Steve brought up the idea of having sex with other women, Jane was devastated. But instead of shutting down, she decided to have an open and honest conversation with him.

“I was hurt, angry, and confused,” Jane admitted. “But instead of throwing him out or shutting down, I asked him why. What I found out was that Steve was struggling with self-esteem issues and was looking for validation outside of our marriage. It didn’t make his request okay, but it helped me understand where he was coming from.”

Through counseling and countless conversations, Jane and Steve were able to rebuild their trust. They ultimately decided to remain monogamous, but the process forced them to confront deeper issues in their marriage that they had been avoiding for years.

The Emotional Toll: Dealing with Feelings of Inadequacy

For many women, the request for an open marriage or “just sex” with others triggers feelings of inadequacy. The thought of their husband desiring someone else can lead to a spiral of self-doubt and insecurity.

“It’s hard not to take it personally,” says Laura, who faced a similar situation with her husband of 10 years. “You start questioning everything about yourself—am I not attractive enough? Am I boring? Did I do something wrong? It’s a brutal hit to your self-esteem.”

In situations like these, it’s crucial to remember that your partner’s desires are not a reflection of your worth. People’s sexual desires can be complex and multifaceted, often driven by factors that have little to do with their partner’s attractiveness or value. Therapy can be an invaluable tool in helping individuals navigate these emotions .

Navigating the Path Forward: To Stay or Not to Stay?

When faced with a request for extramarital sex, every couple must decide their own path forward. For some, the answer may be to stay together and work through the issues, whether by setting new boundaries, seeking therapy, or even exploring consensual non-monogamy. For others, the request may be a dealbreaker, leading to separation or divorce.

“It’s important to know your boundaries and communicate them clearly,” advises Dr. Tammy Nelson. “If opening the marriage is something you cannot accept, it’s okay to say no. But if it’s something you’re willing to explore, make sure you set clear rules and boundaries to protect your relationship” .

Real-Life Example: How Jenny and Tom Made It Work

Jenny and Tom, married for 15 years, faced this very dilemma. When Tom expressed his desire to have sex with other women, Jenny was initially resistant. But after many discussions and therapy sessions, they decided to explore consensual non-monogamy with clear boundaries.

“It wasn’t an easy decision,” Jenny shared. “But I realized that Tom’s desire didn’t mean he loved me any less. By setting boundaries and keeping communication open, we were able to make it work in a way that didn’t hurt our relationship.”

Their journey wasn’t without its challenges, but Jenny and Tom found that by being honest with each other and prioritizing their emotional connection, they could navigate this new territory together.

The Bottom Line: Every Relationship is Unique

When your husband says he wants “just sex” with other women, it’s easy to feel like your world is falling apart. But it’s important to remember that every relationship is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Whether you choose to work through it together, set new boundaries, or part ways, the key is open communication, honesty, and self-respect.

This is a deeply personal decision that only you and your partner can make. Whether you decide to stay together or move on, it’s important to prioritize your emotional well-being and seek support from friends, family, or a therapist.

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References:

1. Nelson, Tammy. The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity. Sounds True, 2013.
2. Perel, Esther. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. HarperCollins, 2006.
3. Fisher, Helen E. “Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love.” The Journal of Comparative Neurology, vol. 493, no. 1, 2005, pp. 58-62.
4. Gottman, John M., and Nan Silver. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert. Harmony, 2015.
5. Perel, Esther. “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.” Ted Talk, 2015.

About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

Being Human doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a warrior!

A.L. Childers

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

The Keto Autoimmune Protocol Healing Book for Women: Strengthen Your Immunity, Fight Inflammation and Love Your Incredible Body

Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Disclaimer

The information and recipes contained in blog is based upon the research and the personal experiences of the author. It’s for entertainment purposes only. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, up to date and reliable information. No warranties of any kind are expressed or implied. Readers acknowledge that the author is not engaging in the rendering of legal, financial, medical or professional advice. By reading this blog, the reader agrees that under no circumstance the author is not responsible for any loss, direct or indirect, which are incurred by using this information contained within this blog. Including but not limited to errors, omissions or inaccuracies. This blog is not intended as replacements from what your health care provider has suggested.  The author is not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of any of the suggestions, preparations or procedures discussed in this blog. All matters pertaining to your health should be supervised by a health care professional. I am not a doctor, or a medical professional. This blog is designed for as an educational and entertainment tool only. Please always check with your health practitioner before taking any vitamins, supplements, or herbs, as they may have side-effects, especially when combined with medications, alcohol, or other vitamins or supplements.  Knowledge is power, educate yourself and find the answer to your health care needs. Wisdom is a wonderful thing to seek.  I hope this blog will teach and encourage you to take leaps in your life to educate yourself for a happier & healthier life. You have to take ownership of your health. The highlighted links are affiliate links in my blogs.

This site is designed for educational purposes only and is not engaged in rendering medical advice, legal advice, or professional services. If you feel that you have a medical problem, you should seek the advice of your physician or health care practitioner. For additional information, please see Our full disclosure, terms of use, and privacy policy.

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So, you’ve just had an unforgettable night with your new flame, and now you’re lying there, basking in the warm afterglow of your first sleepover. But let’s be honest, while he might be thinking about breakfast or wondering where his socks went, your mind is probably spinning with a mix of thoughts, emotions, and—let’s face it—a few irrational worries. What exactly are women thinking after that first night together? Well, buckle up, because we’re diving headfirst into the hilarious, heartfelt, and sometimes downright absurd thoughts that might be racing through her mind.

1. “Was that good for him?”

Sure, we’re all about equality, but let’s be real—she’s probably hoping you enjoyed it just as much as she did. According to research, women often feel pressure to ensure their partner is satisfied .

2. “I hope I didn’t say anything weird.”

Whether it was a random thought or an awkward joke, she’s replaying the night in her head, cringing at any potentially odd comments she might have made .

3. “Do I have morning breath?”

Yep, the fear of dragon breath is real. She’s probably contemplating how to gracefully slip out of bed and brush her teeth without waking you up .

4. “What’s up with my hair?”

Her mind is racing through the possible scenarios: Did her hair survive the night, or does she look like a hot mess? Hair concerns are a real post-coital issue .

5. “Where are my clothes?”

She’s quietly scanning the room for her scattered clothing, wondering if she should make a dash for them or casually pretend she’s not chilly .

6. “What’s next for us?”

Women tend to think about the future more than men, so she’s likely wondering if this is the start of something meaningful or just a one-time thing .

7. “I wonder if he’s a cuddler.”

She’s testing the waters, subtly moving closer to see if you’ll instinctively wrap an arm around her or if you’re more of a “stay on your side” kind of guy .

8. “Should I stay or should I go?”

The internal debate begins: Does she stick around for breakfast or make a graceful exit before things get awkward? Navigating the post-sleepover morning can be tricky .

9. “What if he’s not a morning person?”

If you’re a grumpy morning person, she’s probably wondering how to avoid getting on your bad side before you’ve had your coffee .

10. “Did I snore?”

The horror of possibly snoring like a lumberjack is creeping into her thoughts. Research shows that women are often self-conscious about their sleep habits after spending the night with someone new .

11. “I hope he doesn’t notice my makeup is smudged.”

She’s desperately hoping that the smoky eye she nailed last night hasn’t turned into a raccoon disaster overnight .

12. “Is he going to ask me to stay for breakfast?”

She’s mentally preparing for the possibility of breakfast together, wondering if you’re a pancake or a bacon-and-eggs kind of guy .

13. “Does he like dogs? I have to know if he likes dogs.”

This might seem random, but if she’s a pet lover, your stance on dogs is going to be a make-or-break moment in her mind .

14. “What if I drooled on him?”

If there’s any hint of dampness on your pillow, she’s hoping it was just a little drool, not a full-on drool-fest .

15. “Did I overdo it on the perfume?”

She’s suddenly concerned that she might have gone a little too heavy on the perfume and now you’re suffocating under a cloud of Chanel No. 5 .

16. “What if he’s not a morning talker?”

She’s trying to gauge if you’re the type who likes to chat over coffee or if you need total silence until you’re fully awake .

17. “Did I leave anything embarrassing in the bathroom?”

Whether it’s a random hair product or an over-the-top skincare routine, she’s hoping you didn’t snoop around and find something odd in her overnight bag .

18. “Should I make the bed?”

She’s debating whether to do a quick bed-making session to leave a good impression or just leave it as is and pretend it’s not a big deal .

19. “I hope I didn’t talk too much.”

She’s mentally replaying last night’s conversation, hoping she didn’t dominate the dialogue with her life story .

20. “What if he doesn’t like breakfast in bed?”

She’s wondering if surprising you with breakfast in bed would be cute or if it might come off as too much, too soon .

21. “How does my breath smell? Do I need gum?”

Morning breath paranoia is real. She’s secretly reaching for her purse to see if she has a stick of gum stashed away .

22. “What if he thinks I’m clingy?”

She’s trying to strike the perfect balance between showing interest and not coming off as too eager .

23. “Did he leave enough space for me to leave?”

If she’s planning a stealthy exit, she’s checking to make sure her path to the door isn’t blocked by your shoes, bags, or, worse, you .

24. “What if he wants to spend the day together?”

She’s calculating whether she’s up for a full-day hangout or if she should gracefully suggest heading home after breakfast .

25. “Does he like me, or was it just sex?”

The classic “What does this mean?” question is probably rolling around in her head, even if she’s trying to play it cool .

26. “Did I make too much noise?”

She’s hoping that her enthusiastic vocal expressions weren’t so loud that they woke up the neighbors or, worse, your roommates .

27. “What if I forgot something important at home?”

The anxiety of realizing she left something crucial at her place (like her charger, favorite moisturizer, or even her retainer) is creeping in .

28. “How soon is too soon to text him later?”

She’s already thinking ahead to when she can text you without seeming desperate. Timing is everything, and she’s determined to get it right .

29. “I hope he didn’t notice my messy car.”

If you saw her car when you picked her up, she’s hoping you didn’t judge her for the fast-food wrappers and random gym gear thrown in the back seat .

30. “Did I snore?”

She’s low-key panicking about whether she snored like a freight train and kept you awake .

31. “Is he going to ghost me?”

The fear of being ghosted after the first sleepover is real, and she’s trying to figure out if you’re the kind of guy who might pull a disappearing act .

32. “What’s his favorite breakfast food?”

She’s mentally running through breakfast options, trying to guess if you’re a French toast, oatmeal, or just black coffee kind of person .

33. “Did I leave anything embarrassing behind?”

If she rushed out the door this morning, she’s hoping she didn’t leave any telltale signs behind—like a stray bobby pin or, heaven forbid, her hairbrush .

34. “What if he’s not into me anymore?”

Insecurity can creep in after the first night together, and she’s hoping that everything went well enough that you’re still interested .

35. “I wonder if he wants to go out again?”

She’s already thinking about the next date and wondering if you’ll ask her out again—or if she should be the one to make the first move .

36. “Did I talk in my sleep?”

She’s worried that she might have said something totally bizarre while she was asleep, and now you’re secretly questioning her sanity .

37. “What if he tells his friends about this?”

She’s trying to gauge if you’re the type to kiss and tell or if you’re more of the “what happens here, stays here” variety .

38. “I hope he doesn’t think I’m high maintenance.”

She’s replaying her skincare routine, wondering if you’re secretly thinking she’s a bit too into her beauty rituals .

39. “Does he think I’m girlfriend material?”

She’s contemplating whether you see her as potential girlfriend material or if you’re just in it for the short term .

40. “I hope I didn’t forget anything important.”

The thought of leaving behind something critical—like her phone charger, her favorite lipstick, or, heaven forbid, her keys—is stressing her out .

41. “Did I laugh too loud?”

She’s worried that her laugh might have been a bit too loud or that it didn’t match your sense of humor .

42. “I wonder if he’s thinking about me right now.”

She’s curious if you’re having similar thoughts or if you’re already mentally planning your day without a second thought .

43. “What if I accidentally drooled on him?”

If there’s any hint of dampness on your pillow, she’s hoping it was just a little drool, not a full-on drool-fest .

44. “Is he going to stay or go?”

She’s trying to figure out if you’re planning to hang out for a bit or if you’re gearing up to head out the door .

45. “Does he like coffee or tea?”

She’s mentally prepping for the morning beverage situation, hoping she has your preferred drink on hand .

46. “What if he wants to introduce me to his friends?”

She’s wondering if you’re going to suggest meeting your friends soon—and if she’s ready for that level of social commitment .

47. “I hope I didn’t talk about my ex too much.”

She’s worrying that she might have mentioned her ex a bit too much, and now you’re questioning if she’s really over him .

48. “Does he like breakfast in bed?”

She’s wondering if surprising you with breakfast in bed would be cute or if it might come off as too much, too soon .

49. “What if he’s a horrible texter?”

She’s already stressing about the possibility that you might be one of those guys who takes hours—if not days—to reply to a simple text .

50. “Wow, he’s great. I really hope he feels the same way.”

After all the overthinking and random thoughts, she’s left with one big hope: that you’re as into her as she is into you .

So there you have it—50 things that might be running through her mind after that first sleepover. Sure, not every woman will think all 50 of these things, but odds are a few of them have crossed her mind. The female brain might seem like a whirlwind of thoughts, but at the end of the day, she’s probably just hoping you’re thinking about her, too.

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References:

1. Garcia, Justin R., et al. “Sexual Hookup Culture: A Review.” Review of General Psychology, vol. 16, no. 2, 2012, pp. 161-176.
2. Meltzer, Andrea L., et al. “The Influence of Physical Affection on Married Couples’ Relationship Satisfaction.” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, vol. 24, no. 2, 2007, pp. 173-189.
3. Fisher, Helen E., et al. “Romantic Love: An fMRI Study of a Neural Mechanism for Mate Choice.” The Journal of Comparative Neurology, vol. 493, no. 1, 2005, pp. 58-62.
4. Sprecher, Susan, and Harry T. Reis. “The Importance of Talk in Secondary Post-Coital Experiences.” Journal of Sex Research, vol. 31, no. 4, 1994, pp. 299-308.
5. Regan, Pamela C., and Ellen Berscheid. “Beliefs about the State of the Romantic Relationship and Love Following Sexual Intercourse.” Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, vol. 25, no. 4, 1999, pp. 289-299.

About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

Being Human doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a warrior!

A.L. Childers

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

The Keto Autoimmune Protocol Healing Book for Women: Strengthen Your Immunity, Fight Inflammation and Love Your Incredible Body

Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Disclaimer

The information and recipes contained in blog is based upon the research and the personal experiences of the author. It’s for entertainment purposes only. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, up to date and reliable information. No warranties of any kind are expressed or implied. Readers acknowledge that the author is not engaging in the rendering of legal, financial, medical or professional advice. By reading this blog, the reader agrees that under no circumstance the author is not responsible for any loss, direct or indirect, which are incurred by using this information contained within this blog. Including but not limited to errors, omissions or inaccuracies. This blog is not intended as replacements from what your health care provider has suggested.  The author is not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of any of the suggestions, preparations or procedures discussed in this blog. All matters pertaining to your health should be supervised by a health care professional. I am not a doctor, or a medical professional. This blog is designed for as an educational and entertainment tool only. Please always check with your health practitioner before taking any vitamins, supplements, or herbs, as they may have side-effects, especially when combined with medications, alcohol, or other vitamins or supplements.  Knowledge is power, educate yourself and find the answer to your health care needs. Wisdom is a wonderful thing to seek.  I hope this blog will teach and encourage you to take leaps in your life to educate yourself for a happier & healthier life. You have to take ownership of your health. The highlighted links are affiliate links in my blogs.

This site is designed for educational purposes only and is not engaged in rendering medical advice, legal advice, or professional services. If you feel that you have a medical problem, you should seek the advice of your physician or health care practitioner. For additional information, please see Our full disclosure, terms of use, and privacy policy.

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So, you’ve just had an incredible night with Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now), and as you’re lying there, basking in the afterglow, you might wonder: “What’s going through his head right now?” Is he planning your next date, mentally reviewing his fantasy football lineup, or questioning his life choices? Fear not, because I’m here to take you on a hilarious, sometimes awkward, and occasionally sweet journey through the male mind immediately following that first sleepover.

1. “That was amazing… I hope she thinks so too.”

He’s praying to the gods of bedroom bliss that you enjoyed it as much as he did. According to a study published in the Journal of Sex Research, mutual satisfaction is often top of mind after sex for both partners .

2. “Did I leave the oven on?”

Nothing says “romantic aftermath” like a sudden concern about potential fire hazards back at his place. It turns out, post-sex anxiety can manifest in strange ways, and practical worries are surprisingly common .

3. “Do I cuddle now, or is that too soon?”

To snuggle or not to snuggle? That is the question. He’s overanalyzing whether to go full cuddle mode or keep it casual. Research shows that post-coital affection can significantly impact relationship satisfaction, so he’s definitely overthinking this .

4. “I hope I didn’t snore… or say something weird in my sleep.”

Every guy’s secret fear: that he snored loud enough to wake the neighbors or muttered something unintelligible in the dead of night. Sleep behavior is a genuine concern for many after a sleepover .

5. “Did I do that thing she likes?”

He’s mentally replaying the greatest hits of the night, wondering if he hit all the right notes. Performance anxiety isn’t just a pre-game worry; it lingers long after .

6. “When can I text my buddies about this?”

Somewhere deep in his mind, he’s already crafting a (hopefully discreet) text to his best friend. This isn’t just a stereotype—studies have shown that men often seek social validation from their peers post-hookup .

7. “I hope I didn’t say anything too cheesy.”

That line about the moonlight reflecting in your eyes? He’s cringing at the possibility that it came off like a scene from a rom-com. Verbal missteps are another common post-coital concern .

8. “Is it too early to ask her out again?”

He’s trying to gauge whether it’s cool to suggest dinner next week or if he should play it cool and wait a few days. Relationship pacing is tricky, and he knows it .

9. “What if she’s a morning person?”

This is when he realizes that he might have to face the ultimate challenge: getting up early and functioning like a normal human being. Opposite sleep schedules can be a real relationship hurdle .

10. “Where did I leave my socks?”

No one ever knows where the socks end up. It’s a universal mystery, and one that’s been jokingly dubbed “The Sock Problem” in pop culture and relationship circles .

11. “Does she expect breakfast? Should I offer?”

He’s debating whether to whip up some pancakes or suggest a coffee run. The breakfast dilemma is real, and studies show that the post-sex meal can be a key moment for relationship bonding .

12. “I really hope she doesn’t mind morning breath.”

He’s subtly trying to angle away from you, all while hoping you’re not catching a whiff of his less-than-fresh morning breath. Morning breath is a classic post-coital concern .

13. “Can she tell I’m trying not to freak out?”

He’s doing his best to act calm and collected, but inside, his mind is racing like it’s auditioning for the Indy 500. Anxiety after intimacy is a common issue, particularly in new relationships .

14. “What’s her last name again?”

Listen, it’s not that he doesn’t know your last name—he’s just having a momentary brain lapse. We’ve all been there. Memory lapses post-sex are more common than you think .

15. “Did I leave my phone charger here?”

If he’s staying over, there’s a 99% chance he forgot his phone charger and is now plotting how to make his battery last until he gets home. Phone anxiety is real, people .

16. “I wonder what she’s thinking right now.”

Spoiler alert: He’s genuinely curious about what’s going on in your head. Or he might be hoping you’re not thinking about where his socks went. Post-sex communication is often loaded with unspoken questions .

17. “What does this mean for us?”

He’s entering the relationship territory in his mind, contemplating what this night could mean for your future together. According to relationship experts, the “What are we?” question is never far from mind after sex .

18. “Is it too soon to use her shower?”

The shower question looms large. Is it a bold move or just practical? He’s weighing his options carefully, knowing full well that hygiene is important, but boundaries are too .

19. “I hope I didn’t leave anything embarrassing in the bathroom.”

If he stashed something weird in your bathroom during the night, he’s praying you didn’t notice. Bathroom mishaps are a source of anxiety in early relationships .

20. “I wonder if she’s told her friends about me.”

He’s picturing a group text thread where you’re either gushing about how great he is or (hopefully not) laughing about something silly he did. The idea that women share post-hookup details with friends isn’t just a stereotype—research shows it’s a common practice .

21. “Can I call her babe yet?”

He’s testing out pet names in his head but worries that calling you “babe” too soon could backfire. The introduction of pet names is a key milestone in many relationships .

22. “Did I lock my car?”

Suddenly, visions of his unlocked car flash through his mind, and he’s mentally preparing to dash outside just in case. Practical worries often invade post-coital thoughts .

23. “Am I supposed to get breakfast?”

The breakfast debate continues. Should he stay for breakfast, suggest it, or make a quick exit? The first meal after sex can set the tone for what comes next in the relationship .

24. “I really hope she didn’t notice that zit.”

He’s silently stressing about that one zit he’s sure was glaringly obvious the whole night. Concerns about appearance don’t disappear just because the lights go out .

25. “I could get used to this.”

On the sweeter side, he might be thinking how nice it would be to wake up next to you more often. Long-term thinking often kicks in after physical intimacy .

26. “I should text my mom back… eventually.”

Somewhere between thoughts of breakfast and his missing socks, he remembers that text from his mom he meant to reply to. Family obligations can pop up at the most inconvenient times .

27. “I hope she doesn’t think I’m a player.”

He’s low-key worried you might think he’s not serious because he’s not sure how to show he is without coming on too strong. The fear of being labeled a “player” is a real concern for many men .

28. “Does she want to do something today?”

He’s wondering if this morning should transition into an all-day hangout or if that’s moving too fast. The post-hookup day plan can be a minefield of expectations .

29. “I should’ve brought her flowers.”

Retroactive romance guilt kicks in. He’s thinking that flowers might have been a nice touch, but now it’s too late. Romantic gestures are often reconsidered in hindsight .

30. “I wonder if she likes pets.”

Is she a cat person? A dog person? Allergic to fur? He’s mentally preparing for the future pet talk. Pets can be a major topic in budding relationships .

31. “I hope I didn’t talk too much.”

He’s suddenly worried that he might have rambled on about something weird during pillow talk. Over-analyzing post-intimacy conversations is a common occurrence .

32. “Did I drool in my sleep?”

Sleep-drooling is a real concern, and he’s hoping the evidence didn’t make it onto your pillow. Sleep hygiene is often a top concern after staying over at someone else’s place .

33. “Can she tell I’m already hungry?”

His stomach might be rumbling, but he’s trying to play it cool until food comes up naturally. Managing hunger in social situations is a surprisingly common concern .

34. “I wonder if she noticed how much I was sweating.”

He’s praying you didn’t notice that he was sweating like a marathon runner at the end there. Post-sex sweating is one of those things no one talks about but everyone thinks about .

35. “Does she have plans later?”

He’s casually wondering if you’re free later in the day without wanting to seem too eager. Planning the next hangout is often on his mind immediately after the first sleepover .

36. “I hope I didn’t say anything stupid.”

He’s racking his brain for any awkward or embarrassing things he might have said in the heat of the moment. Fear of saying the wrong thing is a common post-sex anxiety .

37. “What if she doesn’t want to see me again?”

The thought of you not wanting a repeat of last night crosses his mind, and it’s freaking him out a bit. Rejection sensitivity can be heightened after physical intimacy .

38. “How soon is too soon to text her later?”

He’s trying to figure out the perfect amount of time to wait before sending you a follow-up text. Timing that first post-hookup text is an art form, and he knows it .

39. “I should probably check my emails.”

Reality sets in, and he remembers there’s a whole world outside of your bedroom that he’ll eventually have to rejoin. Practical concerns often intrude on post-intimacy bliss .

40. “I hope she didn’t hear my stomach growling.”

He’s holding out hope that his stomach growling wasn’t as loud as it seemed to him. Embarrassing bodily noises are a top concern after sex .

41. “Is it too soon to talk about a second date?”

He’s already thinking about when he can see you again but doesn’t want to come off too eager. Planning the next date can be nerve-wracking .

42. “What if I said her name wrong?”

He’s desperately trying to remember if he called you by the wrong name at any point. Please, no! Calling someone by the wrong name is a nightmare scenario for many .

43. “I wonder what she’s thinking right now.”

He’s genuinely curious about what’s going through your mind, wondering if you’re having similar thoughts. Post-intimacy communication is often a puzzle of unspoken thoughts .

44. “Do I leave now, or is that rude?”

The age-old question of when to make an exit without seeming like he’s bolting. Timing the post-hookup exit is a delicate art .

45. “I should probably ask for her number.”

If you haven’t exchanged digits, he’s wondering if now is the time to make that move. Getting the number is a classic post-hookup step .

46. “Did I snore?”

He’s low-key freaking out about whether he snored like a freight train and kept you awake. Snoring anxiety is a real thing .

47. “I really hope she doesn’t mind morning hair.”

He’s aware his hair probably looks like it’s been through a tornado and is hoping you’re not silently judging him. Morning hair can be a surprisingly big concern .

48. “Does she want me to stay?”

He’s weighing the signals—do you want him to stick around, or is it time for a graceful exit? Reading the room is key in these situations .

49. “I wonder if she likes breakfast in bed.”

He’s thinking about how to make the morning special but isn’t sure if that’s your style. Breakfast in bed is a romantic gesture that’s often considered after the first sleepover .

50. “Wow, she’s amazing. I really hope she feels the same way.”

After all the internal debates, awkward moments, and random thoughts, he’s left with one big hope: that you’re as into him as he is into you.

So, there you have it—50 things guys might be thinking about after that first night together. Sure, not every guy will hit all 50, but odds are a few of these thoughts have crossed his mind. And while the male brain might seem like a maze of random worries, practical concerns, and romantic hopes, remember: At the end of the day, he’s probably just hoping you’re thinking about him, too.

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References:

1. Garcia, Justin R., et al. “Sexual Hookup Culture: A Review.” Review of General Psychology, vol. 16, no. 2, 2012, pp. 161-176.
2. Meltzer, Andrea L., et al. “The Influence of Physical Affection on Married Couples’ Relationship Satisfaction.” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, vol. 24, no. 2, 2007, pp. 173-189.
3. Fisher, Helen E., et al. “Romantic Love: An fMRI Study of a Neural Mechanism for Mate Choice.” The Journal of Comparative Neurology, vol. 493, no. 1, 2005, pp. 58-62.
4. Sprecher, Susan, and Harry T. Reis. “The Importance of Talk in Secondary Post-Coital Experiences.” Journal of Sex Research, vol. 31, no. 4, 1994, pp. 299-308.
5. Regan, Pamela C., and Ellen Berscheid. “Beliefs about the State of the Romantic Relationship and Love Following Sexual Intercourse.” Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, vol. 25, no. 4, 1999, pp. 289-299.

About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

Being Human doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a warrior!

A.L. Childers

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

The Keto Autoimmune Protocol Healing Book for Women: Strengthen Your Immunity, Fight Inflammation and Love Your Incredible Body

Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Disclaimer

The information and recipes contained in blog is based upon the research and the personal experiences of the author. It’s for entertainment purposes only. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, up to date and reliable information. No warranties of any kind are expressed or implied. Readers acknowledge that the author is not engaging in the rendering of legal, financial, medical or professional advice. By reading this blog, the reader agrees that under no circumstance the author is not responsible for any loss, direct or indirect, which are incurred by using this information contained within this blog. Including but not limited to errors, omissions or inaccuracies. This blog is not intended as replacements from what your health care provider has suggested.  The author is not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of any of the suggestions, preparations or procedures discussed in this blog. All matters pertaining to your health should be supervised by a health care professional. I am not a doctor, or a medical professional. This blog is designed for as an educational and entertainment tool only. Please always check with your health practitioner before taking any vitamins, supplements, or herbs, as they may have side-effects, especially when combined with medications, alcohol, or other vitamins or supplements.  Knowledge is power, educate yourself and find the answer to your health care needs. Wisdom is a wonderful thing to seek.  I hope this blog will teach and encourage you to take leaps in your life to educate yourself for a happier & healthier life. You have to take ownership of your health. The highlighted links are affiliate links in my blogs.

This site is designed for educational purposes only and is not engaged in rendering medical advice, legal advice, or professional services. If you feel that you have a medical problem, you should seek the advice of your physician or health care practitioner. For additional information, please see Our full disclosure, terms of use, and privacy policy.

Our full disclosure, terms of use, and privacy policy. | thehypothyroidismchick

We’ve all heard the stories, or perhaps even lived them: You have an amazing time with someone, the chemistry is off the charts, and then… poof! Like a magician’s final act, they vanish into thin air. But why does this happen? What is it about sex that makes some men retreat faster than a cat at a cucumber convention? Let’s dive into the science, the psychology, and maybe even a bit of humor as we explore this age-old mystery.

The Dopamine Dilemma: The Brain’s Reward System at Play

First things first, let’s talk about dopamine. Often referred to as the “feel-good” neurotransmitter, dopamine plays a significant role in the brain’s reward system. When we engage in activities that bring us pleasure—like eating a delicious meal, exercising, or yes, having sex—dopamine is released, making us feel euphoric and satisfied.

But here’s where it gets tricky. For some men, the flood of dopamine that accompanies sexual climax can create a sense of completion, as if the mission is accomplished. The brain, in its infinite wisdom, may signal that the reward has been achieved, and it’s time to move on to the next task—whether that’s grabbing a sandwich, catching up on emails, or, unfortunately, heading for the exit.

The Biological Drive: Evolutionary Instincts

If you’ve ever wondered why some men seem to switch off emotionally after sex, evolutionary biology might offer some answers. From a purely biological standpoint, men have been hardwired through millennia of evolution to spread their genes as widely as possible. The idea is to increase the chances of passing on their genetic material to the next generation.

In the animal kingdom, many male species move on quickly after mating, leaving the female to handle the responsibilities of offspring. While humans are (thankfully) more complex creatures, some of these ancient instincts might still be at play, influencing post-coital behavior. This doesn’t mean all men are biologically doomed to ghost after sex, but it does offer some context for why the impulse to disengage might be there.

Post-Sex Anxiety: The Fear of Intimacy

Now, let’s not let biology take all the heat. Psychology has something to say about this phenomenon too. For some men, the vulnerability that comes with physical intimacy can trigger post-sex anxiety. Suddenly, the walls they’ve carefully constructed around their emotions feel too fragile, and their instinct might be to flee before they get too close.

This fear of intimacy isn’t limited to men, but cultural norms often condition men to suppress their emotions, making it more challenging for them to navigate the feelings that arise after sex. When the high of the moment wears off, some men might find themselves overwhelmed by a sudden rush of vulnerability and choose to disappear rather than confront these emotions.

The Oxytocin Effect: When Bonding Goes Wrong

Ah, oxytocin—the so-called “love hormone.” Released during physical touch, hugging, and sexual activity, oxytocin is known for promoting bonding and attachment. While women typically produce more oxytocin than men, both sexes experience a surge of this hormone during sex.

However, the effect of oxytocin can vary. For some men, instead of fostering a sense of closeness, the sudden increase in oxytocin might create a sense of discomfort, especially if they’re not emotionally prepared for the bonding that the hormone encourages. This can lead to a flight response, where the man feels the need to distance himself to regain his sense of autonomy.

The Commitment Conundrum: When Expectations Collide

Let’s be real—sometimes, the disappearing act is less about biology or psychology and more about mismatched expectations. In the modern dating landscape, the lines between casual and serious relationships can often blur, leading to confusion and miscommunication.

A man might enter into a sexual encounter with the understanding that it’s purely physical, while his partner might see it as a step toward something more meaningful. When these expectations clash, the man might choose to bow out rather than face an uncomfortable conversation about where things are headed.

Real-Life Perspectives: When Science Meets Experience

Of course, not all men vanish after sex, and not all post-sex behavior can be boiled down to science. Take Jake, a 29-year-old software engineer, who shared his experience: “It’s not that I didn’t like her—I did. But after sex, I felt this pressure to define the relationship, and it freaked me out. I wasn’t ready for that talk, so I just… left.”

Similarly, Mark, a 35-year-old writer, explained, “I used to think I had to leave after sex because I didn’t want to give the wrong impression. It was like, if I stayed, it meant I was committing to something more, and that wasn’t always the case.”

These real-life experiences highlight that while biology and psychology provide a framework for understanding why some men disappear after sex, personal history, emotional readiness, and cultural conditioning also play significant roles.

The Bottom Line: Understanding the Disappearing Act

So, what’s the takeaway? While it’s easy to get frustrated or disheartened when someone pulls a disappearing act after sex, it’s important to recognize that a myriad of factors could be at play—from biological impulses and psychological defenses to simple miscommunication.

As we navigate the complexities of modern relationships, it’s crucial to approach these situations with a mix of curiosity, compassion, and, yes, a sense of humor. After all, understanding the science and psychology behind why some men vanish after sex doesn’t just help us make sense of their behavior—it also empowers us to make more informed choices about our own romantic and sexual lives.

So, the next time someone disappears after a night of passion, remember that it might not be about you at all. Instead of taking it personally, consider the bigger picture—and maybe have a laugh at the absurdity of it all. After all, in the grand scheme of things, sometimes the best way to deal with a disappearing act is to be your own magician and make peace with the situation.

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References:

1. Hsu, Po-Chang, MD. “The Science of Sexual Energy: Understanding the Energetic Exchange in Intimate Relationships.” Journal of Holistic Health, vol. 12, no. 3, 2022, pp. 45-56.
2. Manly, Carla, PhD. Joy from Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend. Familius, 2019.
3. Nabil, Sam. “Sexual Psychology and the Fear of Intimacy.” Naya Clinics, 2023, www.nayaclinics.com.
4. Baumeister, Roy F., and Kathleen D. Vohs. “Sexual Economics: Sex as Female Resource for Social Exchange in Heterosexual Interactions.” Personality and Social Psychology Review, vol. 8, no. 4, 2004, pp. 339-363.
5. Fisher, Helen E. Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love. Henry Holt and Co., 2004.

About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

Being Human doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a warrior!

A.L. Childers

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

The Keto Autoimmune Protocol Healing Book for Women: Strengthen Your Immunity, Fight Inflammation and Love Your Incredible Body

Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Disclaimer

The information and recipes contained in blog is based upon the research and the personal experiences of the author. It’s for entertainment purposes only. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, up to date and reliable information. No warranties of any kind are expressed or implied. Readers acknowledge that the author is not engaging in the rendering of legal, financial, medical or professional advice. By reading this blog, the reader agrees that under no circumstance the author is not responsible for any loss, direct or indirect, which are incurred by using this information contained within this blog. Including but not limited to errors, omissions or inaccuracies. This blog is not intended as replacements from what your health care provider has suggested.  The author is not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of any of the suggestions, preparations or procedures discussed in this blog. All matters pertaining to your health should be supervised by a health care professional. I am not a doctor, or a medical professional. This blog is designed for as an educational and entertainment tool only. Please always check with your health practitioner before taking any vitamins, supplements, or herbs, as they may have side-effects, especially when combined with medications, alcohol, or other vitamins or supplements.  Knowledge is power, educate yourself and find the answer to your health care needs. Wisdom is a wonderful thing to seek.  I hope this blog will teach and encourage you to take leaps in your life to educate yourself for a happier & healthier life. You have to take ownership of your health. The highlighted links are affiliate links in my blogs.

This site is designed for educational purposes only and is not engaged in rendering medical advice, legal advice, or professional services. If you feel that you have a medical problem, you should seek the advice of your physician or health care practitioner. For additional information, please see Our full disclosure, terms of use, and privacy policy.

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Sex—whether it’s a mind-blowing experience that leaves you floating on cloud nine or a disappointing encounter that makes you feel like a human embodiment of the shrug emoji—has a profound impact on how we feel. One moment, you’re feeling “meh,” and the next, a spontaneous lover has you seeing the world through rose-colored lenses. Or, you wake up after a lackluster encounter, feeling off-kilter and wondering why your mood has taken a nosedive.

But what’s really going on beneath the surface? Can we truly pick up bad vibes from a casual hook-up? Is our energy compromised when we share our most intimate selves with someone who might not have our best interests at heart? To delve deeper into these questions, I spoke with some professionals and explored the science behind sexual energy. Here’s what I discovered.

What is Sexual Energy?

It turns out that sexual energy is much more than just physical attraction or being “in the mood.” According to Dr. Po-Chang Hsu, “We are energetic beings, and during sexual intercourse, the energy of each partner mixes. Every sex act is an exchange of energy because it can raise or lower your energy level.”

This perspective sheds light on why sexual relationships are not just psychological or physiological experiences. Instead, they are deeply energetic actions. When two people engage in an intimate relationship, their energies merge, creating a connection that can linger long after the physical act is over.

The Science of Energetic Imprints

While the concept of sexual energy exchange may sound mystical, it’s grounded in the idea that all human interactions involve an exchange of energy. Studies in the field of psychoneuroimmunology suggest that our interactions with others can indeed leave a lasting impact on our emotional and physical well-being. This is because our bodies are highly sensitive to the energies of those around us, and these interactions can affect us on a cellular level.

Research from Stanford University has shown that emotions are highly transferable, and the environment we choose, including the people we interact with, plays a significant role in regulating our emotions. This means that the energy exchange during sex can have a profound impact on how we feel, both emotionally and physically.

Real-Life Experiences: The Power of Sexual Energy

Many people have experienced the lingering effects of sexual energy, even if they didn’t have the words to describe it. For instance, Sarah, a 32-year-old marketing executive, shared how a casual fling left her feeling emotionally drained for weeks. “It wasn’t just the disappointment of a bad hookup,” she explained. “I felt like I was carrying around his negative energy, and it took a lot of self-care to shake it off.”

On the other hand, positive sexual experiences can leave us feeling energized and connected. John, a 40-year-old artist, described how his relationship with his partner deepened after they consciously focused on their energy during sex. “We started paying attention to our intentions before being intimate, and it’s made a huge difference. We both feel more connected and in tune with each other, even outside the bedroom,” he said.

The Importance of Self-Awareness in Sexual Relationships

So, should we be more protective of who we choose to sleep with? While it’s not about avoiding intimacy altogether, cultivating self-awareness and understanding your own sexual energy can make a significant difference in your overall well-being.

Lena Elkhatib, LMFT, a sex and relationships therapist, emphasizes the importance of getting in touch with your intentions before engaging in sexual activity. “Being in touch with our sexual energy involves a high level of self-awareness and authenticity that’s accessed through mindfulness, acceptance, intentionality, and being attuned to our body, emotions, and partners,” she explains.

This level of self-awareness can help you align your sexual energy with partners who resonate with you on a deeper level, leading to more fulfilling and meaningful experiences.

Self-Awareness as a Tool for Sexual Alignment

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, self-awareness can lead to greater sexual alignment, putting you in touch with what drives your deepest desires. By paying attention to your body’s signals, you can make more informed decisions about who you share your energy with.

“If our body is telling us we’re feeling anxiety or shame, or that something feels off, and we move forward anyway, we’re likely to have a pretty disappointing sexual experience that will amplify those negative feelings,” says Elkhatib. Listening to your body and honoring its cues can help ensure that you engage in sexual encounters that align with your energy and bring you joy rather than regret.

The Bottom Line: Understanding Your Sexual Desires

Whether you’re into casual flings, committed relationships, or exploring new aspects of your sexuality, the most important thing is to understand what you want out of your sexual experiences. Licensed professional counselor Sam Nabil advises doing some introspective work to discover your sexual wants and desires.

“Some people need intimate sex, while others want casual sex,” Nabil explains. “It all depends on what your sexual needs are.” Understanding these needs can help you make choices that align with your energy and lead to more satisfying experiences.

Conclusion: Embrace Your Sexual Energy

Sex is a powerful force—one that can help us make meaning of ourselves and the world around us. By being mindful of the energy we exchange with others, we can create more fulfilling sexual experiences that align with our true selves.

So, rather than overanalyzing the energy of your partner, perhaps ask yourself: “What do I want out of this, and what is my body trying to tell me right now?” If you’re comfortable with what you find, embrace it and carry on with confidence.

About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

Being Human doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a warrior!

A.L. Childers

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

The Keto Autoimmune Protocol Healing Book for Women: Strengthen Your Immunity, Fight Inflammation and Love Your Incredible Body

Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Disclaimer

The information and recipes contained in blog is based upon the research and the personal experiences of the author. It’s for entertainment purposes only. Every attempt has been made to provide accurate, up to date and reliable information. No warranties of any kind are expressed or implied. Readers acknowledge that the author is not engaging in the rendering of legal, financial, medical or professional advice. By reading this blog, the reader agrees that under no circumstance the author is not responsible for any loss, direct or indirect, which are incurred by using this information contained within this blog. Including but not limited to errors, omissions or inaccuracies. This blog is not intended as replacements from what your health care provider has suggested.  The author is not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of any of the suggestions, preparations or procedures discussed in this blog. All matters pertaining to your health should be supervised by a health care professional. I am not a doctor, or a medical professional. This blog is designed for as an educational and entertainment tool only. Please always check with your health practitioner before taking any vitamins, supplements, or herbs, as they may have side-effects, especially when combined with medications, alcohol, or other vitamins or supplements.  Knowledge is power, educate yourself and find the answer to your health care needs. Wisdom is a wonderful thing to seek.  I hope this blog will teach and encourage you to take leaps in your life to educate yourself for a happier & healthier life. You have to take ownership of your health. The highlighted links are affiliate links in my blogs.

This site is designed for educational purposes only and is not engaged in rendering medical advice, legal advice, or professional services. If you feel that you have a medical problem, you should seek the advice of your physician or health care practitioner. For additional information, please see Our full disclosure, terms of use, and privacy policy.

Our full disclosure, terms of use, and privacy policy. | thehypothyroidismchick

After my first relationship ended, I found myself returning to the spiritual practices and research I had set aside during my time with my ex. At just 19 years old, I had already experienced more than I ever imagined in a brief nine-month union—physical and emotional abuse, cohabitation, an unexpected pregnancy followed by a miscarriage, and the heart-wrenching betrayal of infidelity with my best friend. These experiences left me feeling stripped to the bone, desperately needing to find my way back to myself.

During this period of rediscovery, I stumbled upon a lecture by a spiritual teacher who had become quite well-known for her other noble efforts. Something she said struck a chord with me: when a man and a woman engage in sexual intercourse, the woman’s energy lingers in the man’s system for about a month. However, the woman, as the receiver of his body, carries his energy within her for up to a year after the encounter.

This idea intrigued me deeply. I had long believed that we possess an energetic body alongside our physical one, and though my experience with sex was limited at the time, I couldn’t help but feel that there was a profound truth to what she said. The intense pull I felt toward my partner during our intimate moments seemed to go beyond just flesh and bones—it felt like an energetic connection, a merging of our spirits.

The Spiritual Consequences of Irresponsible Sexual Behavior

Sex is often seen as a purely physical act, but what if it’s much more than that? What if every sexual encounter involves an exchange of energy that leaves an imprint on both partners, long after the physical connection has ended?

Consider the idea that men, as projectors, release their energy during sex, while women, as receivers, absorb this energy. This concept suggests that every time a man sleeps with a woman, he loses a piece of his strength, whereas the woman takes in a part of his spirit. This exchange isn’t just physical; it’s deeply spiritual and can lead to profound, lasting effects on both individuals.

For women, this means that every sexual partner leaves a spiritual imprint, a piece of themselves that remains intertwined with her spirit. Have you ever noticed how after a casual fling, you start adopting some of your partner’s interests, even if they weren’t appealing to you before? Or how you can’t seem to get someone off your mind, even when you didn’t think much of them initially? This might be the result of spiritual attachment, where the energies of past lovers linger within, influencing your thoughts, feelings, and even behaviors.

For men, the impact is just as significant. Every time a man engages in sex without a true emotional investment, he gives away a piece of his spirit, leaving him feeling depleted. This energy loss can accumulate over time, leading to a sense of emptiness and a relentless search for fulfillment that can never truly be satisfied by physical encounters alone.

Understanding Sexual Energy: More Than Just Physical Attraction

Sexual energy isn’t just about physical desire; it’s a powerful force that intertwines the energies of both partners. Dr. Po-Chang Hsu explains that during sexual intercourse, the energy of each partner mixes, raising or lowering their energy levels. This exchange of energy means that sex is not just a mechanical act, but an energetic one that affects both individuals on a deeper level.

Clinical psychologist Carla Manly adds that, much like how we can be affected by someone’s positive mood or toxic energy, we can also be impacted by the energy exchanged during sex. This concept, while not extensively researched, is widely recognized in the fields of relationship and sexual therapy. The idea is that human interactions, especially intimate ones, have a profound impact on our psyche and can leave an “emotional residue” that lingers long after the encounter.

Researchers from Stanford University have found that our environment, including the people we surround ourselves with, plays a significant role in regulating our emotions. This extends to our sexual experiences as well—your partner’s mood or energy can significantly influence how you feel during and after the encounter.

The Importance of Self-Awareness in Sexual Relationships

So, should we be more cautious about who we choose to be intimate with? While there’s no need to overanalyze every potential partner, developing a heightened sense of self-awareness and understanding your own sexual energy can be incredibly beneficial.

Sex and relationship therapist Lena Elkhatib emphasizes the importance of being in touch with your intentions before engaging in sexual activity. By practicing mindfulness and being attuned to your body, emotions, and energy, you can make more informed choices about who you share your energy with.

Listening to your body and honoring its signals is crucial. If something doesn’t feel right—if there’s a pit in your stomach or a sense of unease—it’s worth paying attention to those feelings. This level of self-awareness can help you align your sexual energy with partners who truly resonate with you, leading to more fulfilling and meaningful experiences.

The Bottom Line: What Do You Want Out of Your Sexual Experiences?

Ultimately, the key to a healthy and satisfying sex life lies in understanding what you want out of your sexual experiences. Whether you prefer casual flings, deep emotional connections, or something in between, it’s important to approach sex with a clear sense of self-awareness and intention.

By tuning into your body’s signals and being mindful of the energy you exchange with others, you can create a more aligned and fulfilling sexual experience. Remember, sex is a powerful force that can shape our emotions, our relationships, and even our sense of self. So, before you hop into bed with someone, ask yourself: “What do I really want out of this experience, and how does it align with my energy?”

By doing so, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of sexual relationships and ensure that every encounter leaves you feeling empowered, whole, and in tune with your true self.

About the author

In the realm of literature, few authors possess the power to challenge societal norms and break down stereotypes like A.L. Childers. Through her unique storytelling abilities, she has managed to leave a lasting legacy that has not only inspired her readers but also transformed the way we perceive the world.

A.L. Childers’ journey from poverty to success serves as a testament to the transformative power of writing. By overcoming adversity through her craft, she has become a beacon of hope for those facing similar challenges. Her ability to draw inspiration from small-town life has given her a unique perspective on writing, allowing her to create stories that resonate with readers from all walks of life.

Childers’ story is one of triumph over adversity. Raised in poverty, she faced numerous challenges that could have hindered her dreams. However, she discovered solace in writing, using it as a means to overcome her circumstances. By sharing her personal journey, Childers inspires others to rise above their own obstacles and unlock their true potential.

Writing, for Childers, is a powerful tool for connection. She explores human relationships in literature and delves into the intricacies of human emotions and experiences. Her stories serve as a bridge, connecting people from different walks of life, fostering empathy, and promoting understanding. In a world that often feels fragmented, Childers’ writing reminds us of our shared humanity.

A.L. Childers’ impact on breaking stereotypes through storytelling is a testament to her exceptional talent and unwavering dedication to her craft. Through her journey from poverty to success, her unique perspective on small-town life, her exploration of human relationships, her journey toward self-expression, and her ability to challenge societal norms, she has left an indelible mark on the literary world. Her work serves as an inspiration for aspiring writers, a source of connection for readers, and a catalyst for change in society. A.L. Childers’ legacy will continue to shape the future of literature, reminding us of the power of storytelling to break down barriers and create a more inclusive world.

Brilliantly written, startling, truthful, and utterly original. This is A.L. Childers at her absolute best. She sets an exciting new level of awareness for humanity. Unforgettable books that help you find that lost piece of yourself.

Being Human doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a warrior!

A.L. Childers

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

A Women’s Holistic Holy Grail Handbook for Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s: How I healed my Hypothyroidism and Autoimmune Disorder with Personalized Nutrition

Food is thy medicine, right? Actually, it can work one of two ways. Food can be thy medicine or food can be thy death. This book is a guide that will inform you from the perspective of a women. You will also be able to determine what areas in your life that may need a little bit of work and the skills needed to improve those issues along with some fabulous recipes to help get you started on how to eat KETO AIP. I will also help you understand how to fix your gut, strengthen your immunity and fight inflammation with an autoimmune approach. The Keto AIP removes all the common inflammatory food triggers that stimulate a possible autoimmune reaction in the body. We’re going to start resetting those adrenals, boosting that energy and doing a little booty kicking to those hormones that have decided to act like a wild college student and pull an all-nighter the day before final exams.

The Keto Autoimmune Protocol Healing Book for Women: Strengthen Your Immunity, Fight Inflammation and Love Your Incredible Body

Poisoned Profit

Audrey Childers is a published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.   This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Audrey Childers is a 10x published author, blogger, freelance journalist and an entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in research and editorial writing. She is also the creator and founder of the website the hypothyroidismchick.com. Where you can find great tips on everyday living with hypothyroidism. She enjoys raising her children and being a voice for optimal human health and wellness. She is the published author of : A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty, Reset your Thyroid, The Ultimate guide to healing hypothyroidism and  A survivors cookbook guide to kicking hypothyroidism booty: the slow cooker way. You can find all these books on Amazon.  This blog may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

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